One of the things we all face at one time or another is Fear; fear of dogs or cats, insects of various types. Both seen & unseen fears; some of these fears we call phobias. And they can be very debilitating to the person experiencing that fear. Having experienced one of my own personal little fears the other day it brought to mind a quote that I came across in a book by one of my favourite Science fiction writers; Frank Herbert; in his book; Dune.
“Fear is the mind killer; fear is the little death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear; I will permit it to pass through me and over me. And when it has gone past me I will turn to see fear’s path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing, only I will remain.”
Often we allow our fears to get the better of us and we need to remember that fear is only an emotion. And as an emotion we should be able to control it. And not let the emotion control us. To me the above quote is saying just that, we should not let the emotion control us that we should not give in to our fears, because after the fear has gone we will still be there, but the fear won’t be!
As I was reviewing some quotes that my son had given me as a present I came across this one from Nelson Mandela. He offers a different way of looking at our fears.
“Our worst fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that frightens us. We ask ourselves, “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?” Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God: Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God within us. It is not just in some of us, it is in everyone, and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Too often we meet persons who seem better than what we feel that we are; but we should never judge or compare our own talents or abilities to others, as everyone is different to each other. We should measure ourselves against ourselves; what we have done or not done or achieved with our lives. Everyone has their own fears, either minor of major; so let each of us deal with our own and not let what others may think or do control how we react to or deal with our own fears.
“Go up to your fears and speak to them and they will generally go away.”
It is better to face our fears, to discover what causes them, and deal with them. Either conquer them or learn to live with them in such a way as they do not control our lives or how we react to others around us or even how we intereact with our enviroment. Let us not let fear bring us down but let us control our fears so we can go forward being the best we can both for ourselves and all those around us.